The Month Of Love

I guess many would consider this month, the month of love because of Valentines Day.  Personally, I think every month and day should be filled with love.  You don't have to wait until a holiday comes around to show your mate the love and affection that they deserve.  Just like you eat for the nourishment of your body each day, your heart needs to be nourished with love each day.  Especially from the person that you are involved in a relationship with.  When you get the love, affection, and attention from that special someone in your life, it makes your day feel complete.  For me, it even makes issues and problems seem less stressful and insignificant.  There is no better feeling than knowing that the person you love and care for feels the same way about you.  That is why it is important to let them know on a regular basis how you feel.
So, don't wait until the 14th of this month to tell your mate that you love them or to do something special.  Send them a sweet message or call them now and say that you love them and appreciate them.  If you still want to do the traditional thing and still celebrate on the 14th that's fine, but just make sure that you don't make that the only day you say I love you, or show your love and affection.

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Love Yourself

Usually I talk about relationships and marriage but I felt that this topic is also important if you every want to be in a good and healthy relationship, because before you can love someone else you need to know how to love yourself.

The first person you should love is yourself.  I know that sounds strange, but unfortunately there are many people in this world that do not love themselves.  You will know them just from having a brief conversation with them.  Most of them are always negative, mad, angry, upset, and just plain miserable.  One of the best quotes that I have heard to describe these type of people is "hurt people hurt people", meaning that they have been hurt or abused in some type of way and they take it out on others by trying to hurt them with words or physically.  Most of the time they have been hurt by someone they loved and who was suppose to show them love and support, many times it is their parent or a significant other.
Then there are people who don't love themselves because they have body image issues.  Basically they hate the way they look.  Often times they will become jealous and envious of people who they think has the perfect body or face because they wish that they were them.  If you learn to love the skin that you are in then there will be no need to be envious of others.
When you learn to love yourself you will have peace, happiness, joy, and will look forward to what each day will bring.  Loving yourself also helps you make better decisions in your life, because you will be more cautious and will not do things or bring people into your life that will hurt you.
One of the first steps to learning to love yourself is to think more positive about you. All of us have something good about us, so find what that is and start from there.  Secondly have a better attitude, because your attitude is everything.  It effects your mood and how your day will start and possibly end. Lastly, know that even if you don't feel loved by anyone around you that God does love you and wants you to be happy, prosperous, and loved.

Just Because

When you are in love you do things "just because".  Like buying your significant other a gift and it's not a special occasion.  Bringing home flowers just to show your appreciation for the love that they give you.  It does not always have to be material things, you can always be creative and think of other things to do for your mate.  Doing things "just because" is a way to give each other the advantage, meaning doing things to please your mate and they in turn do the same for you.  It should never be one-sided where one person is always doing something for their mate but their mate does not do the same. One of the secrets to having a long and lasting relationship is to always be looking for a way to make your mate happy and they in turn are always doing the same for you. So do something special or out of the ordinary today for your significant other "just because" you love them and you love to see them happy.

Big Wedding vs. Finances

This is one subject that can cause arguments before the marriage even takes place.  How big is the wedding going to be and how much are we going to spend on it?  Most women (and some men) do want the over the top wedding that will have their friends and family in awe.  Is there anything wrong with this?  Yes and no, because it is something wrong with it if you are going to go into major debt to pay for the wedding but if you can afford to pay for it without it causing a strain on your finances, then go for it.
When it comes to planning a wedding the first thing that should be discussed is how much can you and your mate afford to spend on it.  Make a budget for your special day and stick too it.  The best way to do this is to pick out the most important things first like the location, food, and dress.  Know upfront how much these things are going to cost and then you will know how much is left for other items.  If the place that you have dreamed of having your wedding at is out of your budget, then find another alternative that is just as nice or save your money a little longer if that place is that important for you.
A bride's dress is a big expense and some women pay thousands of dollars for a dress that they will only wear once.  I personally don't think that you have to pay that much to have a beautiful dress. These days there are so many ways to get a nice dress for a decent price, so look at all avenues when shopping for a dress.  This advice is coming from a former bride that has not put on or even looked at my dress since my ceremony.  I found a beautiful gown at a great price and I have not regretted the money that I spent once.
Remember that your wedding day is suppose to be about the love that you and your mate have for each other and not about if you can outdo the last wedding that you went to and spend more money.  This day is suppose to be happy and joyful and not stressful because you are thinking about all of the money that you just spent and what bills you neglected in order for you to pay for the wedding.  So, always remember to make sure that the love you and your mate have is bigger than your wedding!

What Is Love?

This is a question that gets many different answers.  Some people define love as a feeling or emotion.  Others define it as how you treat someone.  I myself see it as a little bit of both, because if someone treats you good then it makes you feel good and loved.  I always say that you can not truly love someone if the way you treat them makes them feel miserable and sad.  Love is happy and caring, not dreadful and gloomy.
Love is when the second that person leaves your sight you automatically miss them.  Your day is not complete if you do not see them or hear from them.  If the mere mention of their name makes you smile, then that is love.  It is when you think of ways to make sure that they are happy at all times and they in turn are doing the same for you.  Love is not one sided and only about what one person in the relationship wants, it is about what is best for both of you.  When you bring out the best in each other and are supportive and encouraging, that is love. 
There are many more things that I can mention but just know that love never hurts and is one of the most wonderful feelings that you will ever have.  So, that is what love is for me.

What is love for you?

If you can not communicate with your mate/spouse then why are you together?  They need to know your true feelings and you need to know their true feelings. 

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